Self-concept are the ideas we have conceptualized about our whole being – our abilities, our qualities, and disposition.
The first five years of our lives are critical in the development of this self-concept. The absorbent mind of a child knows nothing but to internalize every experience and message sent to them during these years. The perception of who we are manifests in our behavior. If we believe we are competent, we act with confidence and conviction. It we lack self-esteem, we lack the ability to live up to our fullest potential.
Children who are sent negative messages about who they are internalize that and it displays outwardly in their behavior as well. If children are told they are “naughty,” “never listen,” or “always in trouble” they will know nothing about themselves other than that, and will behave as such.
When children are sent messages of love, acceptance, and empathy when things go awry the behavior is reflected respectively. They will open up and blossom into productive, creative, curious minds confident in their abilities no matter what challenge comes their way – be it overwhelming emotions or a conflict with a friend.
As parents, teachers and mentors in a young child’s life, you have the power to shape who they believe they are. Use that power wisely. Just like Uncle Ben told Spiderman – “With great power, comes great responsibility.”
